“…a woman can mistake her purpose and believe that her function is to enslave herself to her job, or live only to serve her husband, her kids, her family. This misapprehension can turn into a life where she is utterly starved for pleasure.”
Regena Thomashauer a.k.a. Mama Gena
Pregnancy changed everything!
My creative passion led me to pursue a degree in journalism and eventually, a career as a Producer in television and radio advertising for a record company. The late night studio sessions quickly lost their sparkle as I struggled to stay alert during pregnancy.
I took 6 months maternity leave and once my angel was born, I never looked back. I remembered feelings of abandonment from missing my own mom as she worked late hours to make ends meet and the years of healing I’d spent to become whole. I wouldn’t do that to my kids. I decided to take a hit for my kids’ sake. I would be that mom who was there 100%!
I would create deep and loving communication packed with countless fun memories that would make the difference in their self esteem and future. Bam!
I wrote my resignation and took the leap into being a stay at home mom!
“Remember your Goddess roots.
You wanted to conquer the world. You’re so much more than a mom!”
Can you tell that I was already stunned by motherhood?
The “Fried Mom Award” goes to…
If you’ve ever stayed home with the kids for a bit, you know exactly how it goes: you begin reading as much as you can to become the best mother, then, you start volunteering, leading, organizing and other “awesome mom” shoulds while ignoring the inner call for self expression, grown ass fun and meaning.
My second child was a DIVA…
… straight out of the womb! Mission Control, we have a PROBLEM! I didn’t miss a beat, I just kept on burning the candle at both ends. Adding Troop Leader to the mix and road trips with less and less sleep or time to breathe. Do you smell smoke? I was FRIED! I was consumed with making everyone else a priority except me. Can you relate?
Are you a whiny martyr?
As a coach, I look back and see the battle to prove my worth and be that “great mom.” It happens especially after you’ve been in the working world with real power and authority. You just need to have something to show that you didn’t just watch tv all day!
But motherhood wasn’t filling my cup anymore. With the volatile teen hormones, there wasn’t much glory in this job of being a #MommyMartyr. I quickly realized that if I didn’t learn how to move past the guilt of wanting more for my life, I might actually lose my mind!
In hindsight, my second daughter was the best thing that could have happened to me. She was the wake up call that pushed me to realize that I had lost my identity. Do you feel like there’s no hope for you to have some spice and adventure beyond the kids? What are you going to do about it?
Is this life you’re living the vision you had in your 20’s? Probably not even close to the dream!
You’re not alone. There’s a tribe of women, just like you, who have begun taking the steps to reclaim their dreams and identity and you can too!
If you’re ready, I’m here to support your decision as a #NoMoreWhinyMartyr. Visit my Work With Me page to learn more.