Hey Boss Woman: Who Do You Trust?
If you're not sure who you can trust to expand and execute your dream, a coach could be useful for you. If you're looking to add some velocity to your efforts, partnering with a coach will add turbo charge to your outcome. Yes, two heads are better than one especially when you might not always see your blind spot. You know that predictable part of you that can derail you from executing the plan? That's my job. I remind you of your vision when things become challenging or you want to stall. We all forget our divine rights and royal gifts. Without my own coach, I wouldn't be able to see what's in my blind spot. Even when I do, I'm not always reliable to take action. That's why I continue to get coached to keep moving forward without beating myself up for wasting time.
What is Coaching?
Coaching is a partnership where YOU are the expert of your own life!
The International Coaching Federation (ICF), defines coaching as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.” This is done by asking powerful questions where my client can think about what they want, what might be in the way and who they want to be to move forward and make progress in the area of their life they choose.
Most people are surviving from day to day and rarely make the time to assess the level of satisfaction they are experiencing in their lives. The Wheel of Life is a powerful tool that’s often a wake up call for most. Take a look at the sample below and see if it sparks knowing in your heart of where your attention is needed.
ICF Definition of Therapy and Other Forms of Transformation
- Therapy: Therapy deals with healing pain, dysfunction and conflict within an individual or in relationships. The focus is often on resolving difficulties arising from the past that hamper an individual’s emotional functioning in the present, improving overall psychological functioning, and dealing with the present in more emotionally healthy ways. Coaching, on the other hand, supports personal and professional growth based on self-initiated change in pursuit of specific actionable outcomes. These outcomes are linked to personal or professional success. Coaching is future focused. While positive feelings/emotions may be a natural outcome of coaching, the primary focus is on creating actionable strategies for achieving specific goals in one’s work or personal life. The emphases in a coaching relationship are on action, accountability, and follow through.
- Consulting: Individuals or organizations retain consultants for their expertise. While consulting approaches vary widely, the assumption is the consultant will diagnose problems and prescribe and, sometimes, implement solutions. With coaching, the assumption is that individuals or teams are capable of generating their own solutions, with the coach supplying supportive, discovery-based approaches and frameworks.
- Mentoring: A mentor is an expert who provides wisdom and guidance based on his or her own experience. Mentoring may include advising, counseling and coaching. The coaching process does not include advising or counseling, and focuses instead on individuals or groups setting and reaching their own objectives.
- Training: Training programs are based on objectives set out by the trainer or instructor. Though objectives are clarified in the coaching process, they are set by the individual or team being coached, with guidance provided by the coach. Training also assumes a linear learning path that coincides with an established curriculum. Coaching is less linear without a set curriculum.
- Sports Coaching: Though sports metaphors are often used, professional coaching is different from sports coaching. The athletic coach is often seen as an expert who guides and directs the behavior of individuals or teams based on his or her greater experience and knowledge. Professional coaches possess these qualities, but their experience and knowledge of the individual or team determines the direction. Additionally, professional coaching, unlike athletic development, does not focus on behaviors that are being executed poorly or incorrectly. Instead, the focus is on identifying opportunity for development based on individual strengths and capabilities.
“Everything is figureoutable”
What if I don't know what to do? Does a coach give advice?
As a life coach, I do not profess to know everything. In fact, it’s not possible or necessary to know everything to coach someone. Being a good listener helps to establish a rapport and trust. Once we establish trust and get clear on what the goals are, we can start identifying the limiting beliefs and stories that are thwarting progress. With compassion and love, I work with my clients to uncover the goal beneath the goal which is sometimes a secret goal they’ve forgotten about from years ago. The truth is, your true desire never dies, it gets buried and hidden by other “priorities” but it always comes back to you if you create the space in your heart for it to grow. Unfortunately, for some it’s later than they would like it to be and they choose to let the dream go. That’s why coaching was created; to support those individuals who are determined to put the work in and get their dream on the map with consistent inner work and action.
After working with me, my clients feel tremendous clarity about their mission, the action steps and have tools to manage the inner critic that tries to sabotage their wins. Does freedom and full expression appeal to you? Freedom to write, sing, run a successful business, create without the crushing anxiety or wave of negative put downs from your own head? Are you ready to do something about it so you can get on with making the quantum leap that’s awaiting you? Put your stake in the ground and decide that you matter and book a connection call with me today!